You have a relationship with everyone on the face of this earth. Some are merely surface/shallow and based on the amount of clouds in the sky that day. While others run deep to your core and serve to feed your soul.
God has a purpose for both and every one in between.
I have come to realize recently that, for me, relationships can roughly be organized into four categories:
- Stranger. Everyone starts out as a stranger/someone you simply do not know… yet. This group of people is neither harmful nor beneficial as they stand. They are just there… floating around; some you see and they just continue on their way and float on by. But a few of them drift into one of the two next categories:
- Danger. These people fall on a vast spectrum of danger from a small match (which can hold great potential) to backyard fireworks (that are pretty clear what they’re all about). The Bible tells us very clearly to stay far away from this crowd. Sometimes it’s hard to distance ourselves from these people; especially if things like blood, or time, have created bonds. Think of it like a chain built link by link, day by day. It may take awhile and be a slow process to make a chain but it only takes one cut with a saw to break it. It’s painful to see those chains that you worked so hard to make fall away… but how free do you feel?
- Acquaintances. This is the other, more preferred, option after meeting someone new. I see acquaintances as people who you love to be around, spend time with and fellowship with sharing God’s love. Spending time with these people is such a blessing and is able to fill your cup and make you smile.
- Family. To me these are the most treasured relationships/the most important. Anyone who I see as a “friend” is also my family and vise versa my family members are my best friends. Growing up the word “friend” was thrown around like it was nothing… Facebook and other various social media platforms have desensitized us to the word so much. Now days we think that person we saw at a bus stop one day, three years ago is our “friend.” To me true friends are the people who love you unconditionally (= no conditions). They are the people who challenge you and lead you toward God’s word no matter what, without hesitation. They are the ones who talk about the “tough stuff” and seek a relationship with you; regardless of your weaknesses, your annoying qualities, your imperfectness… They love you despite all of that. To find relationships like this is an immeasurable, priceless, blessing.
There is one relationship that can’t be defined or stuffed into a certain “box.” That relationship is the one we have with our Heavenly Father and Savior Jesus Christ. This relationship is far more important (to say the least) than any earthly relationship we could ever hope to have… as humans we have times when we feel incredibly lonely. It is important that we remind ourselves of the One who is always there; He is ready to love and to listen to us without any ulterior motive just a powerful, selfless, love.
Writing to you helps me process things so much more. Realizing most of these things as I am writing them to you. Everyone wants to be loved. To have that “best friend” relationship we’ve heard so much about or that storybook marriage. I’m working to make the Lord my best friend. To make my Lord God the love of my life.
Sometimes I just have to take a deep breath, say a prayer and give it to God. I thank Him daily for the patience He has with me and the patience He has given those around me. Relationships are hard. Finding balance, is hard… setting boundaries, is hard… But, God has a purpose for all of it… so it is all worth it.
How do you handle boundaries in relationships?
What categories have you made for relationships?
How do you handle things when they get “tough?”
Who is your “best friend?”
Until next time; I pray your day, every day, is blessed.